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Go to bed mad

The cliche activity at a wedding: "Give Advice to the Newly Weds!" The cliche advice: "Never go to bed mad". That doesn't work for us. I can be humble enough to admit I become a mean angry person and that doesn't help anything.

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Constant Marketing

Lesson learned: I listen to too many podcasts on too many different topics inspiring me to do too many different things. Not that I'll change.

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First Web Dev Interview

I knew it had been a stretch to apply for a full-stack web developer position. However, even if it didn't lead to a job offer, I knew it was worth a shot. At the very least, I got to learn what a web developer interview is like.

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Glitter Beard

I prefer "partner" over "wife". It feels right in our relationship, I'm not just "his wife" but an equal partner. Someone that isn't defined as a gendered role with gender norms to follow. I'm not at risk of being 'too masculine'.

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Science translated to Web Dev

I'm partly trying to justify thousands of dollars of debt only to switch tracks a few years out of my Master's degree. As well as, point out transferable skills that apply no matter the situation.

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Launch Home # 3

After much deliberation, I finally settled on a new Homepage! Somehow I ended up even more minimalistic than ever before. But now there's interactions! Ah, so fancy, much new, great joy. And a new highlight to freelancing!

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Invisible progress and learning

While I haven't finished the new homepage, I have been making progress with web development courses. I love the opportunity the internet can give for those us of with the desire to learn!

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Web Dev Blog #1

This all started with my desire to change the design of my site...again. And my schedule changing. Now I feel like I'm allowed to totally redesign my site. All. The. Time. After all, it's all in good educational fun.

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Inflection and Intention

When I write about relationships in fiction I try and highlight the good and bad qualities of ones I've seen before, including my own. So much so that now I'm very conscious about how mine is perceived.

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Explore your home

I had thought I was being more perceptive in my every day life. Until I came back from vacation and reemerged from behind my camera lens.

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The DMV

The stigma facing the DMV has turned it into a dreaded hell-hole. Or at least in my mind. But by the time I left, I wasn't counting the hours spent there. Instead, it was how many excited new drivers I had seen.

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ENFJ with overactive bladder

There's a stigma that you don't talk about certain things at work or during the interview. You want to fit in as best as possible. But what if there was a culture of actually talking about our personal selves. This is my start.

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But... What's Your Specialty?

As projects wrap up, shifting me back to the job market, I find I'm still perplexed by: "What's your specialty?" Shouldn't I be more valuable as someone with several skills, not just 5+ years in one tiny niche?

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Your perspective is a funny thing

People's perspective on the same thing can drastically change how they approach that thing. Explaining your side is one part, actually listening when the other explains their side is another.

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Art & Theory: Fantasy & Science

I have two loves: Science and Art. I took one as my career and keep the other as my many hobbies. As soon as I only think of art as a job though, it loses its appeal. Its therapeutic effects.

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Open Letter to Bellesa.co & Sluts and Scholars

For those that don't know, this is totally directed at a porn site. Why would a feminist write about porn? Because we're allowed to be sexual creatures and deserve proper education on the matter. It's not all about the penis.

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A Real Day Off

Every day after work I get back on the computer and continue to work. Every weekend I work. Trying to fill every moment with reaching my goals. Once in awhile my partner and I have a day off together and I'm forced to just relax.

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Change in Reading = Change in Writing?

I haven't sat down to read a physical book in years. So is it surprising I can't sit down and write one? My mind occasionally stays on the current project, but often winds up somewhere else. Perhaps it's time for Flash Fiction?

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"Just Relax" isn't relaxing

The phrase can be used in proper contexts, like with a masseuse or physical therapist. In bed with an obviously uncomfortable person is not the place. It's not sexy or calming and shouldn't be portrayed in movies as such.

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Webflow Review #2

Six months later and we're still getting along. Along with courses and random how-tos, this is a good place to not only learn the CMS but design features in general.

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Fear induced writing

The downside of being sick is that I have less time and energy to write. The upside is that I'm worried I'll never get better and anytime I can sacrifice to writing, I do so. Perhaps a bit dramatic, but I like to play it safe.

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Influences from your better half

Reason #127 I want to write romance novels: show the healthy influence one person can have over another in a healthy relationship.

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Migraine Cluster(fuck)

How do you manage life when practically all of your spoons have been taken away? You do the best you can and commend yourself on accomplishing anything.

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Shave it off and connect

Find that person that's willing to shave half your head. Not because he thinks it will look good, but because he knows it'll make you happy.

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Embrace the process & problems

Day by day, I enjoy the pain of figuring out art. I enjoy the problems that come with it. I don't enjoy worrying about becoming famous or rich. So I focus on the process of happily learning.

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Misanthrope : too intelligent for empathy?

How moving to boarding school started my transition from a people-hating, tough-shit, republican to an accept-all, 'put yourself in their shoes' silly liberal.

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For the love of Spreadsheets

How I used Google docs and spreadsheets to lose 20 pounds (give or take a few) and get into the habit of writing.

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My Design: My sketchy anti-trend

The design trend has gone sleek and simplistic. Yet here I am trying to clutter up my site as much as possible with grid-lines and sketchy drawings. All behind the text blocks. Why? It's a perfect mixture of my different parts.

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DIY aka "Learning Opportunity"

My over-confident and frugal desire to just "figure it out" mixed with most projects only happening once means everything is full of "chances to learn". Or disasters...

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"I found the perfect job!"

Do you go to school then straight to your job for the next 20+ years? For most people, that's the goal. You spend the money, you find a job, you work till your 70. I need change. I need challenge. I need creativity. 

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Pasta for Thanksgiving

Third and final part of the elopement. Pasta for Thanksgiving: Or Why I'm so Weird About Traditions. Just because we wave off our elopement as no big deal, doesn't mean we're completely emotionless about it, or each other.

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NaNo or Bust?

When NaNoWriMo is almost half over and you're 10% done, is it hopeless? Or was it a completely foolish endevor from the start?

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E day

Part 2: If the wedding is supposed to be all about the couple, then that's how we made it. No pressure, no fuss, and the least amount of stress possible. Just how we wanted it.

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We do [n't conform]

Part 1 of the Elopement: Why we did it. The event of getting married seems like less of an "event" when you're just transitioning from life-partners to "legal" life-partners.

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When I knew

So when I say this is "when I knew", it's not when I knew I wanted to marry him. But knew as a couple we were at a mature and steady point in our relationship to handle getting matching 'wedding band' tattoos.

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To Pseudonym or Not?

To keep anyone that knows me totally out of my writing life or not? Is there anything to be ashamed about? Will I ever answer these questions? Stay tuned...

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Try before you bi?

The exact label of what I am or could have been has never hung me up, because it doesn't matter. So why do people focus so much on how other people label themselves?

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Healthfully DGAF

Being partially blind didn't fit my idea of an independent adult, let alone my ideal perfect future as the do-it-all woman. How did I cope? Essentially not giving a fuck and letting facts be facts.

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Proud Dirty Shoe v2

V1 started the blog. I wanted to assess and write why my stances were so important to me. There's a famous sex ed tape that depicts women as shoes. Those that sleep around are dirty and not worth marrying. It's completely wrong.

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Walking on Moonshine

It blows my mind how something like this was ingrained into me, but not him. This is now known as the ‘Cookout incident’.

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Webflow Review #1

So far, Webflow and I have about a 90% successful relationship. Though if I gave it more money, I'm sure we would get along more.

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Daily what?

What would a daily blog even consist of? All I got is cats, work, and sex. Mutually exclusive, of course.

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Chameleon

Chameleon as in I can fall asleep on the floor...and do many jobs.

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Green is not a good color for love

A relationship should never be based on jealousy. And I dislike hearing about them and even more hate reading about them as a 'typical' relationship.

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Known for what?

Do people ever get known for doing a billion little things? Jack of all Internet moderate fame?

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Too big for your britches

This last online project has gotten larger and longer than I had anticipated. Writing something week by week has its struggles but on the other hand, I would have never gotten to 78k doing it as a whole project.

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To Focus or Not?

My problem isn't writer's block per se. It's writer's focus. So what do I do? Write the correct topic in crap form or meader brilliantly over several plots, doomed to never quite finish anything.

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From their side

It's easy to say 'suck it up' or shut someone out with a 'I'm in pain, leave me alone'. It's harder to try and see from someone else's point of view.

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Are we ever satisfied?

So how do we ever feel done with a piece when we know our different selves in a few years might not like it?

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Living with a "chronic illness"?

I've been googling my recent MRI results out of interest in the human brain. I wasn't afraid or even concerned, just intrigued. But after seeing support groups, little ribbons, or "living with a chronic illness" it changes things.

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Writing Absence

Writing is a habit and an addiction. Yet it's hard to get started. You almost have to force yourself to do it each day till it becomes some sort of daily ritual. But then when you're forced to stop, it feels wrong.

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Penny for your solace?

Although my main area of interest when reading and writing is romance, I'll admit not every day is perfect. With the normal ebb and flow of life, we've both wound up pretty stressed and snippy.

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Sitting in Cars

For someone who hates to drive this seems like a pretty big burden. However, as someone who can also easily lose herself in her own head, it hasn't been as bad as I would have thought. Never in my life have I been so well 'read'.

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Hopeless Romantic...less

I've been a hopeless romantic for about as long as I can remember. My Pinterest wedding board is perfectly planned out to include everything from the venue to hair style.

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My Way of Fighting Back

If they say you don't grow unless your uncomfortable, I should be 100 ft tall by now. Every step of writing is uncomfortable.

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Multi-Mediocre

All my life I've had a clear answer to 'What I want to be when I grow up?' However, it seems to change every 2-3 years.

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Of Varying Types

Another reason I can't finish my short story is that I can't focus on one topic for very long. I seem to really obsess about an idea for a little while, then move on when I figure out a piece.

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Finishing a First

I've thought of so many variations of how they wind up together, including the one I started. However, I'm having a hard time finishing it. It's like I have to make this first one absolutely perfect as if it would be the only one.

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Imagination for the Ordinary

I suffer from anxiety for a number of reasons. One being that I am great at thinking of the worst thing that could possibly happen. The second is the ability to think about that and only that obsessively.

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Writing Comfort Zones

I started writing years ago. But the level of comfort I have with the reading side of this has been growing. Partly by force. It's sort of a 'hold my breath and push enter' when it comes to posting things online.

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Why Not

My scatterbrained need for variety also has me expanding into non-fiction. A space I never thought I would venture into. This blog may never turn into anything but practice. But practice is alright. I need practice after all.

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