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Reason #127 I want to write romance novels: show the healthy influence one person can have over another in a healthy relationship.


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Of Varying Types

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Writing Comfort Zones

I started writing years ago. But the level of comfort I have with the reading side of this has been growing. Partly by force. It's sort of a 'hold my breath and push enter' when it comes to posting things online. 

But the first step was just writing at all. And that was a struggle. The saying is practice makes perfect. So I started writing for myself, only for myself. It began with a young adult novel. I had wanted to write more mature content, but I was honestly afraid of writing sex scenes. I enjoyed them when they appeared in well-written novels. And sometimes skimmed through cheesy predictable Harlequin novels to find them. But the thought of writing them was unnerving. Partly just actually going through the process of writing them, but also the idea of anyone I knew finding them. It seemed too personal for friends and family to read.

So I started with FanFiction. It was one hundred percent anonymous and I knew the community already wrote sexual things. The first thing I posted was a huge step for me. It had been awkward at first just typing the words out. Even when it was just me reading it, actually typing out such graphic things was difficult. And recently with a computer crash, I realized writing them out by hand with a notebook and paper was a new oddity to overcome. People could grab that and I'm sure glancing down at 'hard cock' would raise some eyebrows. 

After I posted the first one things got easier. And it was a great stepping stone. I grew more comfortable with writing out the scenes and got practice using characters that already existed. Not only characters that already existed, but ones that I loved. And I was adding to a community of stories for fans like me that couldn't get enough of the storyline. 

The next step was working more on my own things. I had always hated writing short stories for classes. I loved weaving complex storylines and conflicts. And struggled more with writing a quick start and finish a story that was actually good. But I had several ideas floating around and a scatterbrained approach to writing, so many of them never were going to see the light of day if I only stuck to writing novels. And since I have yet to actually finish a novel, there was a very great chance some of these characters would never actually exist. So I have started my first short story. 

After that was stretching into the non-fiction side with a blog. And with this being the second post, I can't say too well how it's going.

The next step to come is going 'public' with those that actually know me. My name is associated with the site to a point, but it is only linked with other places that are anonymous. So the chances of someone stumbling here and knowing who I am is slim. Only a few people even know I write to sites like fanfiction, and of those I normally don't mention how M rated they get. But one of the suggested ways to promote a blog is via facebook and social media. However, my family is on facebook. It seems to be in line with your parents watching a porno you were in. There is nothing wrong with the sex world, there's nothing to be ashamed about. But the thought of my parents knowing about these things creeped me out. So right now I stay pretty anonymous. But I still have room to grow in my writing comfort zones, and the next step is with those I actually know.